Sunday, April 26, 2015

Friendship Part 2

Hey, it's only been a month since I said I'd write the concluding post about friendship - here I am, what more do you want?  :)  (And I should be working on a report for a student, but I'm putting ALL that aside to write, vent, muse, ponder, etc)

I recently celebrated by 39th wedding anniversary, and I've always, almost since day one, felt like I married my best friend.  But I certainly believe that friendship/relationships with others are important, and I wish I could get a handle on that a bit better.  My spouse is kind of the same way.  He has one person in his life he MIGHT call a buddy, but for some reason, men don't seem to trip over these relationships the way women might.  He doesn't really feel the need for what he might call a "friend".  He, like most men, has categorized his acquaintances into "boxes" - these guys are church guys, this man is a person I work with, this person is someone I talk to on the phone in the course of my job, etc.  His friends are utilitarian.  But a "friend"?  Someone to do things with socially or to "share" (God forbid) with?  Nope.  Not happening for the spouse.

However, on the plus side, I enjoy a friendship relationship with my daughter.  It has evolved over the years and I am grateful.  I am also so thankful for the wives my brothers married - they are "friends" but they are family too.  And my sister - what a special relationship THAT is - I treasure it even though we live many miles apart.  Maybe like the person who thinks he needs something other than what he has, I'm chasing something that I don't really need because, well, I've already got it.  Hmmmm.

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School is winding down for the year.  I cannot count the weeks or even days left because I have too much to do and it would overwhelm me.  I am working one day at a time, trying to meet daily goals and not looking much further ahead than that.  I've also recently started to set some personal daily goals as I manage tasks which need to be done at home.  I'm a procrastinator, and if I can put it off, I will do that in a heartbeat so the daily goals help a lot.  Sometimes the motivation isn't there but I've discovered (as all of you already know, I'm sure) that I can STILL accomplish something even if I'm not "feelin' it".

On this rather dreary, windy, cold April evening at twilight, from south central Kansas, may you find peace, contentment, and joy this day.  Until next time.